Safety Concerns

This was posted in a Fetlife group and I was ask to leave because of a veiled threat and drama...can you believe? I also find it funny that in another thread on Fetlife, a person states sex offenders are leaders of their kink community. I'm simply amazed that some are ignoring safety issues. Has our community ignored safety just to achieve pleasure?

In this day, everyone needs to be aware and warned about issues surrounding stalking/bullying. We hear about cyber stalking and bullying with our children and in schools but seem not to recognize it in our adult lives. The funny thing is we see shows on tv that explain the details of individuals being stalked in their adult life while officials and others around them felt they were just paranoid or making too much of nothing. Well, it happens to adults just as it does our children.

Relationships don't work. An individual becomes jealous and is unable to let go. These individuals will then pursue for reasons unknown to anyone. They will attempt to destroy other relationships that the person is moving toward. They attempt to embarrass and ruin a reputation by posting their delusional version of the truth and playing the victim when they are the instigator.

I'm writing this because I want women to be aware and safe. Remember this is the internet and the person your chatting with can literally be anyone. Unfortunately, you need to be aware of women just as you are of men. Again, some tv shows have documented that women can and will be just as devious and deadly as men.

One thing that was suggested to me was to have a separate email account for your freak side, totally separate from your primary. Be cautious about handing out personal information like address.

If a meeting is suggested, make sure its in a public place. Feel free to ask for references before meeting. You can negotiate to have another trusted friend present during the scene or arrange for a safe call. Otherwise, make sure that someone knows where you're going and who your meeting. I even read once that the person took a picture of the license plate and sent to a family member and friend.

We have a lot of new people to the lifestyle who are exploring and I think we need to stress safety. Some could harm you physically and others could be an annoyance.

Have fun but be safe.