First Play Party

Well I can now say that I have experienced a play party. I didn't participate in play because this first time I just wanted to observe. I had never been to one and didn't know what to expect. Plus I'm a little insecure in this area because I have such limited experience in play.

Ok...I had decided to take the weekend off from work for several reasons. The biggest reason being my birthday. I try to do something around my birthday to relieve some of my depressive symptoms. But me and being depressed on my birthday is another blog in its self.

I search events trying to find something to attend that weekend knowing I was going to be off and not wanting to stay at home. I had also been told in one of my threads on Fetlife to go to munches and events. I needed to get out and meet people.

I orginally had planned to go in the opposite direction of the state to attend a play party. However, due to some potential drama and not knowing who to trust, I decided to go to an area where I didn't know anyone. My thought was this could be a new start so to speak. People could get to know me based on their experience and not the rambling of a vengeful, bitter person who is just seeking attention. So for safety reason, I went in the opposite direction. I think this was a very good decision for me.

I found that the Purple Rose Society had posted an event for that day. It included a munch, demo and play party. Munches, I have attended so I knew what to expect but the rest was up in the air.

The demo was on Sensual Humiliation. It was presented by Dan and Dawn who are national presenters. This type of humiliation is very sutle and effective. I don't even think that some realize that they are experiencing it. The idea is to set up a task, or a series of, that will bring out the inner slut, to take the submissive or slave to another level of service and to push their limits. I believe this is an area I would like to explore further.

During the break, me and another who were first timers, were approached by a group of individuals who wanted to answer questions and make our experience a pleasant one. Then after the demo was finished and the dungeon was being set up, I was approached by a submissive that was in the earlier group. She ask if I had any questions. I had a few but the biggest one on my mind was concerning play and penetration. She informed me that there was no penetration at this event (site). However, at other events, penetration could be acceptable. She even offered to go into the dungeon with me when I wanted to watch some play. We continued to speak and then I decided I wanted to see what play was all about.

I think in the past, first timers have been overwhelmed when they first experienced play sessions so to prevent that members approach, explain things, answer questions and concerns. And in general, provide support and encouragement to help with the first timers continued exploration of the lifestyle and themselves.

Dan, one of the presenters, also approached several times during the night to ask how things were going, to offer to answer questions and provide support.

When we entered the dungeon, several people were playing. It was interesting to watch the different styles and approaches. Since play is individualized, each Dominate was aware of what the sub/slave needed and wanted. Even when a sub/slave was being flogged or padded, there didn't appear to be harshness. The Dominate continually spoke to the sub/slave to ensure everything was alright. This was different than what I had thought after some of my readings and viewing pics and videos. No one seemed to be in pain. It appeared to be all pleasure and fun.

I hadn't planned to play. I only intended to watch. With this in mind, I think I left earlier because I didn't want anyone to approach and ask me to play. I would have said yes. I wanted to play...I wanted to experience but something stopped me. I don't think it was my lack of trust because I felt very comfortable with the situation and atmosphere.

Dungeon etiquette was explained to me. It was really simple. You could watch but you needed to remain quiet so not to distract any of the participants. You also shouldn't enact with the sub/slave during playing so not to ruin the energy or their mindset.

I can't return for another play party. I may be brave enough to play.

Getting Ready

I'm getting so excited. In 12 days I will be attending my first play party. I really don't know what to expect or wear. I have posted to Fetlife a question about what to wear.

I think I'm moving along with learning to be a submissive. I'm not in the frenzy I once was to experience. I don't trust and with the realization, I have slowed down. I'm chatting and planning to attend events. This isn't something that I have to achieve in a day...I think I've come a long way.