Rant

I'm not feeling good. I have a tooth that is killing me and I started my period. Either of these things could be causing my headache and negative mood.

Ok...now to my rant. In my city, an individual is setting up for a meet and greet. From my conversations, several have been getting together on the regular but now have expanded to Fetlife. Now the person attempting to do this is young but I get the feeling that she is extremely ashamed of who she is.

She has ask for ideas for locations twice in a thread in a local group on Fetlife. I have offered viable suggestions each time only to receive a response back, thank you but no thank you. The first time I suggested having a play party at the local swing club. But she knows that person who owns the club who knows her family and she doesn't want people to know about her lifestyle. However, if I set something up, she would attend.

Again today she as for suggestions as for locations for a meet and greet. I suggested Denny's for a munch and BW3 for a meet and greet. The response back was they were both "too public". When I questioned that she responded she didn't want to go anywhere that children could be. She also stated as a mother, she didn't want to hold anything where children could be. Also the group didn't want pics taken and some didn't want their name out there because of their professions. I'm totally confused on this and have replied back through email several times. I don't understand what have a munch or meet-n-greet in a public place, vanilla setting, has to do with acknowledging what we are or like. I thought that the purpose of the vanilla activities were so people could get to know each other, people that think a like and enjoy some of the same activities.

I see her as putting up road blocks when it isn't necessary. No one will be wearing a banner stating "I'm a freak...come beat me". I think everyone values their privacy but also values getting to know others who are similar.

Maybe I'm just to cranky and should have avoided the internet today. But if someone ask for suggestions, should they consider it instead of just shooting it down.