In a previous blog, I stated I ask a friend to define our relationship. I actually ask him twice. Well, within hours of my second request, I got my answer. He stated he wanted a D/s relationship. This shocked me because that wasn't how I thought he would define our friendship. But silently, I was ecstatic.
I have my doubts about entering a D/s relationship simply because I don't think he is able to dominant me. He hasn't found himself as a Dominant yet. The title was thrown on him by another with no information as to how he should. I explained this and he finally understood what I was talking about.
I'm sending him blogs that I find that I think would be helpful. I have told him of the books I'm currently reading which I hope he will take the time to read also. He has also realized he needs to be financially stable to fully take advantage of all the lifestyle has to offer such as educational events, demo and other lifestyle get togethers.
I think this will be an interesting couple of months.
Sunday, April 15, 2012
Saturday, April 14, 2012
Throwing my hands in the air...
What is it with men that state they are Dominant? (Oh, stalker I'm not talking about our mutual involvement.) I was approached earlier this week via email on Fetlife. The master (yes lower case due his being self proclaimed) stated "hii am looking for you check my profile looking to move you in...MASTER".
I responded "First, I don't think you are looking for me. I'm not looking to move at this time. You may want to consider a different approach. I'm an independent free thinking woman who doesn't appreciate the approach you have taken." I thought this would prompt him to leave me alone but it didn't. He responded "and why are u not looking to move,as to the approach I am telling you my likes,my thoughts,my needs. I like your name,you photos and i like you. lets talk...MASTER WILLIAM"
I won't bore you with the rest of the bs. I did explain why I was unable to move and in another email I ask the following "Plus I would ask, where did you see my profile? Did you read my profile or blog? Are you involved in your local community? What philosophy do you follow in the lifestyle such as Old Guard or Gorean? What do you believe the role of a dominant? submissive?"
I also explained that I didn't have an appreciation for men who put their dick pics as their profile pics. In my opinion, they aren't real doms, they are only looking for the sexual side of BDSM when there is so much more. I also stated I don't just lay down...his response was "WOW well you are a first you say my putting my dick on display is for sex only now that is a first. i am proude of my dick so i do show it only,also i want you/all to know what your getting.
you ask am i involved in my local community.what philosophy do i follow,and what do i think of a dominant and submissive
well ill answer the DOMub part
I DOM will tack care of you and you being a sub will tack care of your DOM
as to you laying down WOWif you feel that way woman you are not a sub.................................................
MASTER WIIAM"
I thanked him for his interest and I don't think he appreciated being turned down. What makes some men think that submissive means weak and needy? We have blank minds and choose to follow their thinking and not our own.
Then to top off the week, someone that I haven't spoken too in months felt the need to tell me that he found a pet on Fetlife and she greatly pleased him. What does he think he's doing? Trying to tell me that I've missed out...I don't think so. I wasn't impressed with him when we were talking, why would I care.
How many more do I need to suffer? Why can't a Dominant that meets my standards present? I really shouldn't say that. I have had discussions with Dominants that I would love to serve and submit too, they are just miles and miles away. I still maintain hope.
I responded "First, I don't think you are looking for me. I'm not looking to move at this time. You may want to consider a different approach. I'm an independent free thinking woman who doesn't appreciate the approach you have taken." I thought this would prompt him to leave me alone but it didn't. He responded "and why are u not looking to move,as to the approach I am telling you my likes,my thoughts,my needs. I like your name,you photos and i like you. lets talk...MASTER WILLIAM"
I won't bore you with the rest of the bs. I did explain why I was unable to move and in another email I ask the following "Plus I would ask, where did you see my profile? Did you read my profile or blog? Are you involved in your local community? What philosophy do you follow in the lifestyle such as Old Guard or Gorean? What do you believe the role of a dominant? submissive?"
I also explained that I didn't have an appreciation for men who put their dick pics as their profile pics. In my opinion, they aren't real doms, they are only looking for the sexual side of BDSM when there is so much more. I also stated I don't just lay down...his response was "WOW well you are a first you say my putting my dick on display is for sex only now that is a first. i am proude of my dick so i do show it only,also i want you/all to know what your getting.
you ask am i involved in my local community.what philosophy do i follow,and what do i think of a dominant and submissive
well ill answer the DOMub part
I DOM will tack care of you and you being a sub will tack care of your DOM
as to you laying down WOWif you feel that way woman you are not a sub.................................................
MASTER WIIAM"
I thanked him for his interest and I don't think he appreciated being turned down. What makes some men think that submissive means weak and needy? We have blank minds and choose to follow their thinking and not our own.
Then to top off the week, someone that I haven't spoken too in months felt the need to tell me that he found a pet on Fetlife and she greatly pleased him. What does he think he's doing? Trying to tell me that I've missed out...I don't think so. I wasn't impressed with him when we were talking, why would I care.
How many more do I need to suffer? Why can't a Dominant that meets my standards present? I really shouldn't say that. I have had discussions with Dominants that I would love to serve and submit too, they are just miles and miles away. I still maintain hope.
Thursday, April 12, 2012
Frustrated yet again...
Over the weekend, I thought I had resolved issues with a friend. However, I'm wondering what exactly he wants. I thought I made myself clear but I've been thinking, maybe he isn't listening.
He stated he wanted to see me and spend time with me when that really didn't occur. It was the same as usual. Don't get me wrong, he spend a little time with me but it was more "I need to do this and that". Then while we were talking, he was again distracted.
I told him upfront that he had nothing to offer me but he still insisted on seeing me. I on the other hand have a lot to offer him which is willingly accepted. I look out for his reputation, I know what he wants and likes. I could actually help him with all his goals.
I just don't understand why he feels the need to assist a bitch that does nothing but disgrace, disrespect and embarrass him. His friends and family don't want her around due to her bad behavior. As her jealousy and tantrums increase, more and more are seeing just how bad it is. I bet they are also wondering why he tolerates the abuse that she offers on a regular basis. We haven't discussed the lies. He knows more than she thinks and knows that she has lied to his face but for some reason he believes there is an obligation. He had a chance to escape but she manipulated the situation and again trapped him.
Now he isn't innocent so don't think that. He has made poor decisions and continues too. All the positive he was doing to move toward his goals has been turned into a negative. He has so much potential but can't seem to move past this stagnation.
I have ask him twice now to define the relationship that he would like with me. If he chooses not too then I will be forced to develop the definition. It probably won't be what he wants but I have given him a chance. I can't put my life on hold due to his decisiveness.
He wants to learn to be a Dominant but doesn't want to step up to the level he needs. If he would put in place certain standards, it would be a positive effect on all parts of his life, not just within the lifestyle.
Time will tell which way he will go and if he chooses success or disgrace at the hands of another.
He stated he wanted to see me and spend time with me when that really didn't occur. It was the same as usual. Don't get me wrong, he spend a little time with me but it was more "I need to do this and that". Then while we were talking, he was again distracted.
I told him upfront that he had nothing to offer me but he still insisted on seeing me. I on the other hand have a lot to offer him which is willingly accepted. I look out for his reputation, I know what he wants and likes. I could actually help him with all his goals.
I just don't understand why he feels the need to assist a bitch that does nothing but disgrace, disrespect and embarrass him. His friends and family don't want her around due to her bad behavior. As her jealousy and tantrums increase, more and more are seeing just how bad it is. I bet they are also wondering why he tolerates the abuse that she offers on a regular basis. We haven't discussed the lies. He knows more than she thinks and knows that she has lied to his face but for some reason he believes there is an obligation. He had a chance to escape but she manipulated the situation and again trapped him.
Now he isn't innocent so don't think that. He has made poor decisions and continues too. All the positive he was doing to move toward his goals has been turned into a negative. He has so much potential but can't seem to move past this stagnation.
I have ask him twice now to define the relationship that he would like with me. If he chooses not too then I will be forced to develop the definition. It probably won't be what he wants but I have given him a chance. I can't put my life on hold due to his decisiveness.
He wants to learn to be a Dominant but doesn't want to step up to the level he needs. If he would put in place certain standards, it would be a positive effect on all parts of his life, not just within the lifestyle.
Time will tell which way he will go and if he chooses success or disgrace at the hands of another.
Tuesday, April 10, 2012
Figuring Out What To Do
The second and third weekends of the month is always so busy. Its so hard to determine exactly which part of the state to go to. Columbus has several events such as AIS's Perversion Diversion where lifestylers are able to be vanilla while standing on the edge of kink. And up north, Akron's Purple Rose Society has their munch/demo/play party. I believe the demo is on fire this month. Plus there are some education things with Rev Dawn and another dealing with photography.
Next Friday is Fetish Friday at the local swing club in Columbus which is featuring a Domme' who will be discussing presenting with a purpose. On Saturday, I believe Canton is holding their monthly event which will be discussing hair bondage.
Oh, the last weekend has a great event in Pittsburgh then we go into the month of May. The spring and summer are looking so great. One just has to decide which to attend.
Next Friday is Fetish Friday at the local swing club in Columbus which is featuring a Domme' who will be discussing presenting with a purpose. On Saturday, I believe Canton is holding their monthly event which will be discussing hair bondage.
Oh, the last weekend has a great event in Pittsburgh then we go into the month of May. The spring and summer are looking so great. One just has to decide which to attend.
Sunday, April 8, 2012
Saturday, April 7, 2012
Wow...Overall Good Day
First I need to say, I have a great mechanic. He found a potentially serious problem and then fixed it. Even though, I did have to call him because he wasn't at the shop when I arrived.
The only bad thing was stalker bitch decided to take her stalking to the next level. She was observed sitting outside the shop's fence. For some reason, she did get the balls to walk in for something but only pissed my mechanic off. She was rude to him and he has decided that she isn't permitted around his business. So people are now seeing her behaviors, its not just my imagination.
On the most positive, me and a friend were able to talk about the riff in our friendship. I believe things are back on track.
I also have come up with a great birthday gift for my friend. It didn't take me posting in every group on Fetlife, it only took me knowing him.
The only bad thing was stalker bitch decided to take her stalking to the next level. She was observed sitting outside the shop's fence. For some reason, she did get the balls to walk in for something but only pissed my mechanic off. She was rude to him and he has decided that she isn't permitted around his business. So people are now seeing her behaviors, its not just my imagination.
On the most positive, me and a friend were able to talk about the riff in our friendship. I believe things are back on track.
I also have come up with a great birthday gift for my friend. It didn't take me posting in every group on Fetlife, it only took me knowing him.
Thursday, April 5, 2012
OMG...thankful that the week is ending...
I believe my mechanic is trying to kill me...lol I have to make a trip to see him because the one devoted to me needs some tender loving care. He is open the mornings on Saturdays so instead of sleeping in and getting some quality time with my computer, I will be making a trip to the mechanic's.
I'm finally getting a feeling for my new job but I love using the line "I'm new". There are areas where there is only complete chaos with absolutely no organization. So my intent is to make my little word and little organized so that things will be more efficient.
Amongst the chaos of work, my stalker made another appearance. I received an email from a friend of hers but I'm still unsure exactly what the goal was. Things were done so that only thing I can think of is she is bored or wants to resolve things. If its the latter, my suggestion is stop being stupid and contact me directly. The reason I threw the latter in, I believe the friend is actually a fake page and its really her. I do believe things blew up, I contacted our mutual friend. Informed him of the interaction with her friend and when the drama started, I blocked the page so I didn't have any further involvement.
Plus in the middle of all this, I had a family emergency which ended up being nothing. But it was better to be safe than sorry. I wanted to sit on my couch but I don't believe this weekend will provide any relief due to car maintenance and the Easter holiday...no rest...:(
Just had a thought, I might take my bottle of wine to my mechanics. Get the car worked on, play on the internet and wine to relax, that just might make the beginning of a good day, maybe even the weekend.
I'm finally getting a feeling for my new job but I love using the line "I'm new". There are areas where there is only complete chaos with absolutely no organization. So my intent is to make my little word and little organized so that things will be more efficient.
Amongst the chaos of work, my stalker made another appearance. I received an email from a friend of hers but I'm still unsure exactly what the goal was. Things were done so that only thing I can think of is she is bored or wants to resolve things. If its the latter, my suggestion is stop being stupid and contact me directly. The reason I threw the latter in, I believe the friend is actually a fake page and its really her. I do believe things blew up, I contacted our mutual friend. Informed him of the interaction with her friend and when the drama started, I blocked the page so I didn't have any further involvement.
Plus in the middle of all this, I had a family emergency which ended up being nothing. But it was better to be safe than sorry. I wanted to sit on my couch but I don't believe this weekend will provide any relief due to car maintenance and the Easter holiday...no rest...:(
Just had a thought, I might take my bottle of wine to my mechanics. Get the car worked on, play on the internet and wine to relax, that just might make the beginning of a good day, maybe even the weekend.
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