Day 1: Who am I?

I saw another blogger doing 30 days of kink ( Bottoms up - http://dulcib.blogspot.com). It looked interesting so I have decided also to try. I thought it would be an excellent tool for examining my status in the lifestyle. This is just another way for me to learn more about me and my submission.

Day 1: Dom, sub, switch? What parts of BDSM interest you? Give us an interesting in-depth definition of what that means to you. Basically define your kinky self for us.

I have thought long and hard about how to identify within this lifestyle. I have determined that I am a sub. I thought it would be hard to explain but it really isn't. I want to take care of someone, to serve. I'm good at providing options and seeing things that someone else may not see. Sometimes an individual isn't able to look outside of the situation, that is where discussing possible options is important.

Since the Dominate is in control, the decision maker, its necessary to provide all avaible options. This is important so that the Dominate is able to make the best possible educated decision for all concerned.

I see my role as protector. I'm to safe guard the Dominate's interest and reputation. If he is going to make a choice that will adversely affect him, its my duty to provide different options that will be of benefit.

There are so many things that has drawn my interest into BDSM. I like the idea of a D/s relationship which provides for respect, communication and power exchange. I have been the one to make all the decisions for myself and my children. Not all decisions were good or beneficial and some were made due to situations beyond my control. Within a D/s relationship, there would be a discussion and someone else would be making the final decision.

When looking at the physical side of BDSM, I'm still exploring. I like all regular stuff like hair pulling and ass smacking. But I'm also finding I like candle wax, rope and clothes pins. I'm working on fisting but I'm time and stretching takes time...lol. I'm not impressed with canes or paddling, tried those at a Bottom's Buffet.