What I want in a Dom?

This has been a question that I have been thinking alot about. I've been talking to a couple and of course several others have popped up. Of course, now I have to figure out what I'm looking for in a dominate. I know I'm looking for one that is drama free. I would also like a Dominate who respects these values: Honor, Respect, Communication, Trust, Honesty, and Consistency.

I'm looking for a dominate that is understanding. I know me and I have questions. I want someone that is willing to take the time and explain things to me. I want someone that is willing to push my limits. I want to feel safe and secure. I want to enjoy my new found discovery of being submissive. I don't want to argue and I don't want to be hurt.

The Sir that I've been having conversations with appears to be on the level that I desire but I feel he is very intense. I don't know if that is a good thing or not. I like being humorous and playful. I get the feeling this may be an area of conflict.

He also mentioned mentality for being in his household. He will only accept slaves and he lives a poly lifestyle. I told him in honesty that I don't know if I have the mentality to be a slave and he thought that was fair.

The reason I don't know if I have the mentality to be a slave is I don't know if I can worship someone as some other slaves seem to do. I don't know if I can kiss someone's feet. I'm just feeling comfortable with being a submissive.

Of course I will be blowing one off that has hit my fetlife page. He is unable to identify what he is and doesn't have a pic posted. I thanked him for the compliment and suggest he post a pic. He offered to send me dick pics. This doesn't sit well with me. I'm attempting to find myself and explore. If I wanted a booty bump, I just need to make a phone call.

Then there is Ray. We had a great night. Now he is telling me he is a dominate/Master. I find his timing to inform me unusual considering the drama his best friend is attempting to create. I told him it could only be sex and he is wanting something more. I'm not going threw what I have with B. I want to feel safe if we should go to an event. I want to trust the dominate I choose.