Interviewing a potential Dominate/Master

When I determined that the person I thought would be my Dominate wasn't going to fill that role, I was at a loss how to look or find one that was suited to me. To find an individual that I trusted, had respect for and dependent on while in comprising situations. I have read several threads and blogs with a similar tone so I know I'm not the only one to be distressed with finding a Dominate/Master.

Luckily, others have already wrote about their experiences and how they handle certain situations. Plus I was fortunate to stumble on to submissiveguide.com who writes about issues that submissives and slaves may face in their quest for the perfect relationship. Since I have been receiving the newsletters, there has been a 2 part series talking about what to look for. Its "Run Don’t Walk: Warning Signs of A Predator Dom/me Part 1 and 2". I'm sure a novice or newbie would be quit interested in these two articles. I was. It has helped me to develop a dialog with potential Dominates. When potential Dominates dont fit with information that I have previously read or learned, I can then ask why the difference.

Now I usually ask what the potential Dominates view on the role of a Dominate and submissive. Also, something that I picked up on my own was what philosophy they trained or acknowledged. The last question seems to be tricky because they ask what I mean. I have learned that there are subsets within the lifestyle that have very defined ideas on community and roles within that community. When they aren't able to answer this, I give me a red flag. Are they serious about the lifestyle or just a fake?

If your question session doesn't give you some ease, it might be wise to move on to the next. Don't allow one to attempt to exert dominance when it is unwanted. What I have learned, you need to negotiate and feel comfortable with what you choose.

Something else I've been thinking about is the potential Dominate's involvement in the local community. It appears when they have involvement, they are concerned with their reputation. Its just something else to consider.