Break ups

I wonder why break ups always have to be so hard. I think what makes them hard for me is the ex is always wanting to continue a relationship. I think continuing a friendship would be fine but when lines are blurred and the other person isn't honest, it makes it hard to continue a friendship.

I didn't want to have feelings. I wanted to keep my distance and did for a long time. But as he called and wanted me around, I let my guard down. I told him how I felt that I loved him. I knew he didn't love me but did have some feelings and cared.

He really doesn't know how to be a Dominate but I attempted to expose him to different people and philosophies. But in the end, he would rather be around people that are unreliable and only want a submissive to be a doormat. As he stated to me 'I'm a Dom, your a sub...you do as I say".

He wanted to establish rules with me but allow his documented "sub" to do as she pleased because he had no control. I removed myself from groups in her area but she was permitted to remain in mine. She knew posting in those groups would agitate me and when I complained to him, he would do nothing. The real funny part, he continues to tell me that he is only using her for a vehicle. He is either lying to her or to himself but he is lying.

I wish he would just listen to me. Today, he called and was immediately angry. I basically told him in a text that as long as he had a relationship with her, I would not be around. I don't have to tolerate the harassment which is what it is. I also told him to have a poly relationship, he needed a secure primary relationship.

The one question that I have ask and hasn't been answered is "why do men want women that fuck everything, lies and steals?" So far I haven't received an answer.