You have the right to be treated with respect.
Not only do you have this right, you have the right to demand it.
Being submissive does not make you a doormat or less of a person than
anyone else. The word "submissive" describes your nature and in no way
diminishes you as a human being. You have the right to respect yourself
as well.
You have the right to be proud of what you are.
Being a submissive is nothing that should ever bring you shame or
feelings of reproach. Your submissive nature is a gift and should always
be a source of pride and happiness.
You have the right to feel safe.
Being a submissive should not make you feel afraid, insecure or
threatened. Submission is not about living on the edge or flirting with
fear. In any situation you should feel safe or there can never be true
surrender.
You have the right to your emotions and feelings.
Your emotions and feelings come from you and they are just as valid
as anyone else's. You have a right to them. Those feelings, whether
positive or negative, make you who you are and suppressing them will
only bring unhappiness later.
You have the right to express your negative feelings.
Being submissive does not make you an object that no longer has
negative thoughts or concerns.Your concerns are real and you have every
right to express them. If something doesn't feel right, bothers you,
makes you feel bad or you just plain don't like something, say so.
Failing to express your negative feelings could give the mistaken
impression that you are pleased or satisfied with something that is not
pleasurable or agreeable.
You have the right to say NO.
Being submissive does not take away your right to have dislikes or
negative feelings about things. If something is happening or about to
happen that you feel strongly opposed to, it's your duty to speak up.
Remember, failing to communicate your 'NO' can be confused with an
ongoing 'YES'. When anything in your consensual scene makes you feel
unsafe in any way, communicate that, and remove any doubt.
You have the right to expect happiness in life.
Being submissive is not tantamount to being miserable, suffering or a
life of despair. Your submission should bring you joy, peace and
fulfillment. If it doesn't, then something is wrong.
You have the right to have input in a relationship.
You are an active partner in any relationship you enter and have
every right to contribute to it. You are submissive, not passive. A
relationship that doesn't include your needs, thoughts, hopes and
desires is not one you should be in to begin with. This applies to
friendships, partnerships and D/s relationships.
You have the right to belong.
Being submissive greatly involves the feeling of belonging. Many
submissives have expressed that it was in discovering their submissive
nature that they felt as through they "belonged" for the first time in
their lives. You belong to the lifestyle and will eventually belong to
the One. It's in that relationship you should find the final fulfillment
of "belonging" at last.
You have the right to be loved and to love.
Anyone who tells you that love doesn't fit into a D/s relationship
has never experienced the fulfillment of all it truly can be.
Submissives are by nature loving and needing of love and have every
right to expect this to be a part of their lives. It takes love to bring
your submission into full bloom, so don't settle for less.
You have the right to be healthy.
Health involves your physical, mental and emotional well-being. Any
relationship, D/s or otherwise, that causes you to suffer physically,
mentally or emotionally, beyond your limits, is abuse. There is no place
for abusive behavior in a D/s relationship and it's up to you to make
sure those lines are not crossed. Being a submissive does not give
anyone the right to harm or injure you in any way. The D/s community
will stand behind you if you should encounter such a situation but you
are the one who has to make them aware before they can help.
You have the right to practice safe sex.
Not only is this a right, it's a duty to yourself and others you may
come into contact with at a later date. Sexually transmitted diseases
have reached epidemic proportions and must be a concern to any sexually
active person. Safe Sex is something you have the right to insist upon
and protecting yourself should never be discouraged by anyone who really
has your best interests at heart.
Author Unknown
Saturday, May 5, 2012
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